A story i had to tell....

I got into a relationship about 14months ago when I met this girl Kimberly Mak Tsin Tib, we soon found ourselves in a relationship. But right off the bat her past came to haunt us, one of her recent ex-boyfriends came to confront her.

He stormed into the house where we were together and started saying all kinds of things about their and her past, im not sure how much of it was true as he was saying she had been sleeping around with a lot of guys and that her nature would be to leave me for another guy when she gets to UK.

but I stood by and protected her when he started to get violent, forcing her to kiss him. I called the cops when he just refused to go away. He did show up repeatedly for a while, obviously very upset of how their relationship ended. Finally after some time he ceased to bother us and we could get on with our lives.

We got on quite well with ourselves, enjoying time together and with our families going on trips etc.. we were happy with where we were, or so I thought. Then came the time for her to leave for the UK, many times had she just wanted to end our relationship. To me that appeared as just taking the easy way out, I tried to preserve what was important to me and so I thought we should try to maintain our relationship.

6 months went by and it was time for her to fly off, another 6months went by when she was there and we had our ups and downs. We planned a trip for me to go over there and we would travel around UK together a month from now in the summers before I transfer there to complete my studies a few months later.

We started to argue more as she said I was being such a negative person showing my unhappiness towards the distance in between us and it was affecting her. Each time we talked things through and I asked her to just always be honest with me if there is another party involved so at least I know im not wasting my time or hers for that matter. But she said no, there was nobody else.

I knew that she was getting close with one of her housemates so I asked about him and she would answer " he is just like my bro, we just have fun together, there is no way we would have a relationship, besides i got u!"

Recently she went to his hometown, spending time together with him and his family. After that things got tense between us, she felt affected by my negativity and suggest that we ‘put the relationship on hold’, at that point I questioned her again about that guy and she answered the same as before. So after talking we decided to take things slowly.

But something seemed very wrong and so I did something I am not proud of. It wasn’t too difficult to guess her skype password and there I found the truth.

When I confronted her, she confessed and said it has been going on for a while, even before she followed him back to his hometown. She said that I made her sad and he was there when there was nobody else to lean on. She said her feelings for him were more than for me.

She said she still loves me and wants to try and work things out,but when I asked if she is in a relationship with him, she said yes.

She said "it doesn’t matter because at the end of the day it is me she will come back to, because he was leaving for France".

It was only a few nights earlier we confirmed the hostel we were going to stay in when I came to visit her there, only later I found out that she already made plans to go back to his hometown first and then from there come meet me when I arrive in London.

At this point I was quite speechless. I asked her to choose between me or him, she chose me and said she would end things with him.

Just an hour later after talking to a ‘friend’ she changed her mind, thus ending our relationship. She ended with " i spoke to Gell and i think its important tht im happy in a relationship,and im not happy with u.so i had to do this sooner or later.this is good for both of us.and at the end of the day. ‘your just a boy and I have a future ahead’."

Fair enough but is that justification to cheat on me.

Do you not see your own disgust? You are the vile essence that has transformed me into a being so consumed by hate, capable of writing this.

You have tainted the person that was once me.